Hello there, beautiful soul,
If you've been feeling stuck, doubting your worth, or chasing confidence but never quite catching it—you’re not alone. Sarah, I see you. Juggling motherhood, relationships, and a life that rarely slows down, it’s easy to internalise those quiet whispers that say you’re not doing enough. But let me tell you something powerful: It’s not your fault.
Many of the habits we develop—thinking they’ll keep us in control or help us finally “fix” ourselves—are actually the very things holding us back from feeling truly worthy.
Today, we’re rewriting that story. These are six habits that might be quietly sabotaging your self-worth, and what to do instead to feel grounded, confident, and empowered—just as you are.
1. Stop Setting Yourself Up for Failure
Let’s start here. The stories you tell yourself matter. And if you’ve been living in familiar thought patterns like “I’m not good enough,” or “I’ll fail anyway,” it’s not because you’re weak—it’s because your mind has been conditioned to play it safe.
🩷 Try this instead: When those thoughts creep in, pause and ask: “Is this thought empowering me, or keeping me small?” Start journaling your answers. Questioning your inner dialogue is the first step toward rewriting it. You deserve a narrative that celebrates your growth, not just your struggle.
2. Stop Saying You're a Lost Cause
Have you ever said, “That’s just the way I am,” or “I’ll never feel confident in my skin”? These aren’t facts—they’re fears. And those fears are valid, but they’re not the end of your story.
🩷 Start here: Catch yourself in the act of self-defeat and flip the script. Say, “I’m learning.” “I’m growing.” “I’m doing the best I can.” These small shifts retrain your brain to recognise possibility over permanence.
3. Stop Looking for Proof You’re Not Enough
When you believe deep down that you’re unworthy, your mind will filter the world to match that belief. You’ll brush off compliments, but hold onto criticism like it’s gospel.
🩷 Your new practice: Each day, find one thing you admire about yourself—something internal, not physical. Maybe it’s your resilience. Maybe it’s your humour, your patience, or your passion. Write it down. This small act, done consistently, rebuilds trust with yourself.
4. Stop Going All or Nothing
Raise your hand if you’ve ever missed a workout and then gave up for the week. (Guilty!) That “all or nothing” mindset keeps you stuck in cycles of self-sabotage.
🩷 Instead, try this: Choose progress over perfection. Celebrate the showing up, not just the “ideal outcome.” Even putting on your Everyday Empower 7/8 Leggings and stretching for 5 minutes is a win. Small steps move you forward—every single time.
5. Stop Treating the Symptom Instead of the Root
No amount of goal-chasing, diet-hopping, or perfection-seeking will heal a belief that says “I’m not enough.” True self-worth comes from within—not from your body, job title, or schedule.
🩷 A deeper approach: Get curious about the “why” behind your drive. Are you seeking love? Safety? Approval? Journaling, therapy, or connecting with safe community spaces (like the Active Elite blog) can help you unpack these patterns with compassion—not shame.
6. Stop Thinking Worth Has to Be Earned
Here’s your gentle reminder: You are already enough.
Not when you lose weight. Not when your to-do list is done. Not when you finally “get your life together.”
Now. As you are.
🩷 Embrace this truth: Worthiness isn’t something to chase—it’s something to remember. It’s your birth right. And no one can take that from you.
You’re Not Broken. You’re Becoming.
This healing journey? It’s messy. It’s non-linear. It’s sacred.
And if you’ve been stuck in any of these habits, let’s be clear—you’re not failing. You’re human. And now that you see them, you have the power to shift them.
At Active Elite, we’re here to walk beside you. Whether you’re joining one of our community wellness challenges, slipping into activewear that makes you feel seen, or simply reading our words and breathing a little deeper—we’re holding space for you.
🌟 Practical Steps to Start Today
- Journaling Prompt: “What story about myself do I need to let go of?”
- Affirmation: “I am already worthy. I do not need to prove it.”
- Community Action: Share a small win in our Instagram community.
- Support: Bookmark a post or playlist that brings you back to calm on tough days.
- Style Boost: Wear your favourite set and move with intention. Try our Empower Bra and feel the difference confidence makes.
You are worthy of joy, rest, and respect—just as you are. Let go of the patterns that keep you shrinking and start showing up as your whole, powerful self.
Your journey isn’t about fixing what’s “wrong.” It’s about remembering who you are beneath the noise.
We see you. We celebrate you. And we’re here—cheering you on with every brave step.
With love
Amanda x
